Sex and the City creator Candace Bushnell joined Tinder, ignoring warnings that she could be getting caught in a game of “Russian Roulette.”

GRAND RAPIDS, MICHIGAN, KENT, May 30, 2016 /EINPresswire.com/ -- Sex and the City creator, Candace Bushnell, joined the Tinder dating app after her divorce. Later, she admitted to overlooking warning signs. Eventually she dodged what is called the dating-app “Russian Roulette.”

Anindya Ghose, said that “Without dating apps, a great deal of effort would be put into casual relationships, chatting with someone at a bar or hanging out. These platforms make it convenient and easy and that is the driver” of an increase in reported cases of STDs. The danger is that dating apps have become the “the digital bar scene” without benefit of face-to-face interaction. Dr. Marina Gafanovich, says“there have been cases of people [that] get infected with an STD . . . with no contact information, it was impossible to trace the carrier and prevent it from spreading to more people.

Certified Life Coach, Linda F. Williams, founder of Whose Apple Dynamic Coaching Services, stated that,“It is the decisions we make in our own lives that determine the likelihood of engaging in casual sex with anonymous others. The advent of dating apps and the apparently resulting increase in STD diagnosis are related. Yet, individual human behavior also plays a part.” In a recent blog post, Williams offers this advice to dating app users.

1. Go with What You Know

Candace already knew what she was getting into; yet she ignored that the warnings. By her own account, she had heard of Tinder’s negative reputation. Don’t ignore truth in favor of fantasy.

2. Unrealistic Expectations of the Technology

Candace had unrealistic expectations of the technology. She thought she could “count on one thing: The technology changes . . .” No computer algorithm can weed out ulterior motives, hidden agenda, and fake profiles. Do not count on the technology to determine if this is your ideal match! Remember that it is your choice, not the electronic process, that makes the difference.

3. Know Who You Are and Act Accordingly

Candace had an idealistic view that “people are still people. They still want to fall in love. They still want to have babies. And some of them still want to get married.” But, She went to the wrong well to find someone who shared her values. Decide who you are, what are your values, to decide what you really want in a relationship. Consider it your personal GPS.

4. Ignore Your Lying Eyes!

Candace admits the realization that she and her “match” had nothing in common. She ignored that in light of how attractive he was. Never ignore what you see beyond the service based on good looks. Candace got caught up in what she wanted him to be instead of who he was.

5. Family Matters and So Does His Drug Problem

Candace’s dinner discussion with her Tinder match revealed all she needed to make a dodge-the-bullet decision about this man. He admitted using drugs and family dynamics that she should never have ignored. Always consider what a potential partner tells you or shows you about their true character.

6. The Alarm is Ringing – Stop Hitting the Snooze Button

Although the headline of the Candace Bushnell article stated that, her Tinder date was in jail, the man’s entire story smacks of deceit. It appears that he was pulling a Houdini on her. I have observed this Disappearing Act a million times.

Alarm 1: The first alarm that sounded was the fact that it took 6 hours for Candace’s date to respond to her initial text.
Alarm 2: Implausible excuses that did not withstand the reality-test
Alarm 3: Too many missing parts to a story is a sign that someone did a sorry job of concocting it.

After she sent him a text that she was glad he was okay; Candace laughed to herself. ‘I should have known better. Tinder is the house, and the house always wins,' she explained.

Not if you play your cards right, Candace . . . not if you play your cards right.

Linda F. Williams
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